Let me start this off by saying that, having any form of a pessimistic personality will ruin your dreams, and your quality of life in general. Always being in a negative mindset, expecting the worst, or never looking for the good in situations, will only attract more negative events.
Oh, and no, that is not being negative when I say it will ruin your dreams. It is just how it works, you need to realize the legitimacy of the power your thoughts have to be able to move past the negativity.
Are you wondering if you even have a pessimistic personality? Well, if you can relate to the first two sentences, then you probably do. But review the following list, and if you can related to just one, then you are probably living in a very negative state of mind:
- Always expecting the worst
- Assuming failure before anything happens
- Giving up due to lack of confidence that you will succeed
- Never appreciating the good that happens
- Only focusing on the bad things
So this list is rather generic, but you should get the point by now if you are one of negative thinking or not.
Let me tell you right now, these ways of thinking will only push you farther away from whatever dream it is that you hold.
But how do I change? What if it won’t work? What if I fail?
Don’t worry, I won’t hold it against you for asking these questions to yourself as these are typical thoughts of one with pessimistic personality disorder. All of those questions are exactly what is holding you back from living an optimistic lifestyle. You must accept that you think this way, want to change it, and slowly (but surely) make the steps required to change into a optimist, or a realist if you so desire.
Nothing will come overnight, but you need to gain the willpower to keep yourself at it every, single, day. It’s hard, I get it, I struggled with it for awhile and even do to this day at some points. Although, now I will catch myself and improve on that aspect of my thinking so I will avoid it from happening again.
This is not something that may ever fully change, as sometimes your thoughts are unconsciously provoked, and that is okay! But you’ll just need to be able to catch it, understand why you thought that way, and act on improving it in the moment.
Now, how exactly do you go about changing your mindset from being pessimistic, to more-so of the optimistic type? I’m going to give you some of the steps that you will need to implement to make this life-changing change.
1. Identify Your Ways of Thinking
I’ve probably provoked a lot of things so far about your ways of thinking, and it was really to prepare you for the first step of the transition, acknowledgement.
Acknowledging that your mindset is not where you wish for it to be is crucial. The main reason for this is because you can’t change something you are unaware of, or don’t want to be aware of. Taking responsibility for your negative thinking, and actually wanting to change it, is the only way any of the other steps will work.
Imagine a world where everyone would want to be positive? I probably wouldn’t even be writing about pessimistic personalities, as there would be none left in the world. If you want something bad enough, whether it be a car or a mindset, you will get it only if you truly desire said thing.
Also remember one thing, not everyone will be on the same page. Certain people around you will remain being negative, until they too want to change there toxic ways of thinking. (Maybe you should refer them to this post if you like them?)
So, acknowledge that your ways of thinking are not what you want, and want to change it. From there, we can now move on to the actual process you will go through while changing from a pessimistic mindset, to one of optimism.
2. Identify Negative Thoughts When They Happen
This one can be hard, but you need to identify thoughts as soon as they happen. Doing this will be like “catching your thoughts in the act.” Now that may sound funny, but hear me out.
If you catch your negative thoughts while they happen, you will be able to stop them right then and there. After you catch yourself thinking negatively, identify what triggered these thoughts. Is it just your old, pessimistic, ways of thinking, or is it something deeper?
After you know why these thoughts happened, think positive things to counter-act the negativity you’ve brought to yourself. Doing this overtime will slowly fade away your negative ways, and start becoming a natural thing to be positive.
This is an on-going (maybe for the rest of your life) step. Like I said before, even I catch myself from time to time with pessimistic thoughts, and change them right there on the spot. Don’t let them go and say you will “deal with it later” as this will lead to your mind thinking this type of thinking is okay, when it really isn’t.
Hopefully that step was manageable, and didn’t make too many people laugh. But if it did, I’m glad to get a smile out of you.
3. Develop Daily Routines
Although I’m not going to go in-depth here about what exactly the best daily routine is, I’m going to give you some tips that solely deal with getting rid of your pessimistic thinking through a daily routine.
Every time you wake up and go to sleep, get into the habit of thinking about what you want in life and how you will get there. Think of how it is possible, how overtime you can go anywhere you wish.
Doing this as soon as you wake up, and right before you sleep, will ensure your days and nights are filled with more positivity. Just remember, it’s all about training your brain to think positive. You don’t want to start your day off with a, “today will be awful” mindset. Instead, think today is another step to reaching my goal that I will reach one day.
Now with that attitude my friend, you will get to where you want to be.
4. It’s Okay to Let Go
This step sounds so simple, but yet might be one of the complex ones that will sort of happen ‘naturally.’ Letting go a mindset of toxic thoughts won’t be easy. In fact, I bet it’d be easier to donate your most prized possession than it will be to automatically let go of your pessimistic thoughts.
Although it’s hard, this step will finally free you of the negative lifestyle. Once you pass this step, you’re life will be dramatically improved from before. But remember, this is more of a naturally occurring step, so you will only be able to measure progress on it as you move forward toward the optimistic side.
Just remember, try to let it go, you don’t want the negativity. Once you finally become an optimist, you will feel free and not feel trapped anymore. Thank me later?
Tips to Keep in Mind
- Negative thoughts are normal, but you need to learn how to transform them to positive thoughts and slowly remove the negative thoughts from your life
- You need to want it, and be willing to work on it every single day
- Keep your mind busy will fulfilling work, it really does help
- Make yourself feel good by doing things you enjoy (being stressed won’t help with this transformation)
- This could be considered a disorder for some people, so you may seriously need to consider in-depth help from a professional (not recommended for everyone)
If one thing could result from this post for all of its readers, I would hope that it got you conscious about your pessimistic thoughts, and that there is hope to change it for everyone. Because once you are conscious, you can now make the decision whether or not you wish to change your mindset.
If you like the negative lifestyle, I can’t change that way of thinking. There will always be people who are fine with it, or just don’t want to actually try to change. But for those who have really been provoked through this article and want change, start today.
Don’t wait until the start of next week, don’t wait for tomorrow, start right this moment. Start implementing all of the steps I’ve suggested in this post, and you’ll be surprised how fast you can start to become more optimistic.
I’d love to hear some of the struggles you face being a pessimist down below in the comments. Or, if you’ve become optimistic then give some of your own personal tips for those who are still working towards developing a better mindset.